Knowing your worth!

I knew before kindergarden that I was suppse to be something more than just be in life. . . . My great great grand mother schooled me early on pimps and hoes and how the first pimp was a woman, but men took the business over and fucked it up with thier mistakes and cruelty of their workers. lolol Madam's became wealthy and had homes, bank accounts, & families. While the male pimps lived day to day in hotels on hookers money and fast cars.

She told me the most valuable thing a woman has is her pussy and why would you want to give that away to someone undeserving. Your husband should be equally yoked to you, where you would protect him and he you. She told me alot about her and my great grandfather and who they were when they were younger and who they had become with age.

My great grandmother was one of the wisest women I have ever spoken to and she lived until I was 15 years old. Her death is also the only funeral I have ever cried at and actually felt like I was about to die and could not breath anymore. I was confused when she passed, I didnt know why back then. But later I realized that my mother was there and I had no one else to protect me from her.

I guess I am writing this, because I forgot about what i am worth and listening to alot of my girlfriends complain about their men is reminding me... After i all I do tell them quite often, men will only do what you allow them to. So change that and you change yourself.

I just wanted to write a little, nothing too much.. Talk to yall later. .

"Girl! Did you just fart, because you blew me away"

The worst line any nigga has ever said to me, I am still floored about that one. . lololol

Anyway, the other night a guy friend of mine caught his soon to be fiance in bed with another woman. Now I say soon to be because, he bought a ring 3 weeks ago and was waiting until September 25th to propose to her, trying to be romantic and pop the question on the day they met. I guess the big surprise was on him. I thought and told him he was one of the very few and last considerate men left out there and this ind wasnt cheap ( after all, i did help him pick it out) Exquisite if I must say so myself.

Anyway, back to the story. So just about every other nigga i know would be pleased, but my friend is not one of those men. He is really hurt and disgusted at the fact that he had no idea. I feel sorry for him really and yet I think he will have a hard time moving on from this, but  guess we will see if they get together in the next few months or if it is completely over.

So even though some men are scum and try fucked up pick up lines and show no emotion about anything in life, they can also be sweet and really emotional about their loved ones and friends. I am so blessed to have him as one my true friends and I hope he finds happiness very soon.

This is the 2nd one of my male friends that is a good man to get burned... Women say they want a good man, but when they truly get one they fuck him over, just like doggish men do good women.

So why cant the good find the good, I guess that will be my next subject in the very near future?

What makes a WOMAN a dumb bitch when it comes to MEN and WHY?

YOU will NEVER meet his children, becuz you don’t matter.

YOU will NEVER be seen with him in public, becuz he is ashamed of you or he feels why take you out and spend money, he is already getting yor goodies.

YOU can NEVER go to his house to sleep, becuz he has a gilfriend, wife, boyfriend (and ur an experiment) or just embarrassed about you. Your only a piece of ass to him.

YOU can NEVER express how you are feeling in public, becuz he will NEVER take you out. HE IS JUST AN ASSHOLE with other motives.

YOU will never meet his mother - He is afraid of what momma will say (always have been and gets very MAD when u say it) Listen! lolol.......

YOU will NEVER build self confidence about yourself becuz you allow him to belittle or hit you, becuz you (yourself) do not value your own self worth.

YOU will NEVER know where he is and call him repeatedly becuz he feels you dont need to know and may call you when on the way for a piece of ass and you accidentally find out.

YOU will always be jealous, becuz he will NEVER tells you anything and why should he. You only see him at your house, no dinner, no movies, no lunch, no flowers, no apologies, no pick up or drop you off to work. NO NOTHING!

YOU will NEVER be #1, becuz everything else comes before you. EVERYTHING!

in all HE IS JUST NOT THAT INTO YOU, and You have been a stupid bitch for waiting around thinking that all of this will change. After a few weeks of the same pattern you should have been gone and not even have gotten to the sex part.... lololol

All of these may not apply to you, but if at least 2 ( I said at least 2) then you should step back and re-evaluate your situation.

WHY do you let this happen? There are many reasons. The most popular few are;
1. You love him, for reason unknown to you
2. Your lonely and he is the only man paying you any attention.
3. The sex got your mind fucked up.
4. He feeds you and you dont get food stamps and not working right now. So you need that right now! lolol
5. He is a sexy Mutha Fucka and you cant stop, not wanting to see and feel his body.

by; Mrs. Xklucive

Men and their insecurities! WOW!

Had a father's day cookout last night. Had Fun! But questions lingered thru the night. The man that I like showed jealousy of another man hitting on me, ( that has no chance with me) How can someone stop someone else from liking them. So men just like the chace, but that chace with me can go on for years, until their death.

They get mad if you dont give them your phone number. They dont know how to court women any more, bcuz of all the chicken heads that made their pussy so readily easy for men not to have to work for it. Then women like myself have a hard time searching for the kind of man we want and like.

And yall wonder why women turn gay, ITS EASIER BITCHES! (men) lolol

If a man is not secure enough to trust a woman who likes a certain type of man, never showed any interest in anyone else but you and tells you how she feels. WHAT THE FUCK IS THE PROBLEM? This kinda shit pisses me off. I dont have time for drama or bull shit in my life. This shit will only push me away and seek another. So fellas if you have a great woman, dont try her. Sometimes we push back, and TRUST! It will sting in the end.

Just let me do me and you, then there will not be any problems. What the hell should I do, I think I am gonna have to flip the script for a minute and see if that works for me. If it does, I will find someone else any way, becuz that means, he is so content with bull shit, he doesnt know how to respond to anything else. I'm too old for this shit now, and tired... So fuck it!

WIFE vs WIFEY!

When I was growing up, the “Unofficial Woman’s Handbook” always spun the idea, that when it came to a woman’s virtue, the best bet would be to hold on to what you have, and a man’s response to your chastity would resolve itself into a life of happiness and matrimony.
We’ve all heard the phrase, “Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free.” Words were no truer a reality, then they are now in this generation where marriage has become somewhat of an urban legend, or possibly the next stop in mythological findings.

Times have definitely changed, and the game of love doesn’t necessarily honor its members with a salute of longevity by way of exchanging vows. Rather, the new plan of attack is to just cop yourselves a prototype; a title officially known to most as “wifey.”

But what exactly is a wifey anyway? Is this the new standard women should aim for rather than bothering with the archaic ideology that marriage is the game of fortune?

Wifey’s are far different than being a man’s girlfriend. Usually a girlfriend aspires to be a man’s wife. On the other hand, wifey’s aspire to keep a man happy, whether the title of wife comes in the future or not.

The name in itself has all the pleasures of everything a wife possesses, but when a brother wants to walk away, he can do so without having to miss a beat due to court appearances or battles over the shared property.

In the wake of recent public divorces involving Swizz Beatz and Dwyane Wade, it would seem as if the exchanging of vows no longer offers the security it once did when it comes to hoping for a guarantee in forever. Does this mean love would be better served if we just threw away the idea of marriage? Should we opt to stay in the pretense of matrimony with someone who would be willing to wear the crown without being sworn in to the throne?

Maybe.

It might save people a lot of trouble and misfortune, to just cop themselves a wifey, instead of trying to find forever with a wife. Hmph… if only I believed that theory.
Unfortunately, being able to cut your losses when the going gets tough is becoming the most attractive venture in aspiring relationships. It’s also an excuse for folks to treat love like a temporary tattoo–easily washed and removed when the surface appears to get tattered and torn, rather then working to fix the problems.

In examining the two, there are vast differences in both titles.

The duties of a wifey are definitely not those of a wife.
Oh no. A wifey’s sole responsibility is to keep it fun, playful, and sexually interesting at all times. They don’t have to worry about exploring the budget, because the plan isn’t for them to hold down a household. And until that theory changes, they can enjoy the perks of living the life of a wife, without having to actually worry about paying the mortgage.
But what really makes these women so attractive to men is they’d rather settle down with someone who they see no end in sight with?

To many, wifeys mark the difference between a man coming home to a frumpy housemate, versus running home to play house with a sexy bedmate.

Most cheaters claim after they got married, everything changed. All the sexy their woman once had dried up like a grape turning into a raisin once the vows were said. Wifey’s on the other hand stay sexy year round, which makes them a more attractive mate, than waking up next to a woman who suddenly looks like her mom.
In defense of said women, the responsibilities of a wife far outweigh the laid back lifestyle of a man’s wifey. Wives cook and clean, while wifeys kick back, relax, and look good on a man’s arm. Wives have to work full time, and maintain the household once they get home. Wifeys have to maintain only the relationship by keeping a man pleasured, happy, and continually interested in their presence.
It should be noted that just because a woman gets married doesn’t mean she’ll let herself go. There are plenty of women who can sustain a superwoman posture, and still remind their man why he chose them in the first place.

Yet even with all of this on the table, more and more men are either leaving their wives for these women, or settling with women who are cool with the idea they never have to formally commit to forever.

With Michelle Obama standing tall as the wife many of us desire to one day be, should we still hope our men will always want to “Put a Ring On It,” or must we prepare ourselves for the role of playing house for as long as our car is allowed in the driveway?

Is it cool to be a wifey or should be demand to be a wife? Do you think a woman can be both?


REPOSTED FROM CLUTCH MAGAZINE. . . . all my thoughts reminded me, I needed that. ..

What made u want to settle or did you forget to ask yourself that important question? You know the woman you are and what all you have to offer? Do you feel that your worthy of being the wife and not Wifey? What made him marry her and not you, but your still around? What could you have done differently to make that change? Would it be forever with you, or will another woman later, become Wifey, while your the wife?

So many questions and only 1 answer. ( Get your own and figure it out, leave her man alone) by Joe Bacon